Feeling fairly unaffected by the whole festive thing today. It always seems to happen in the last couple of days leading up to Christmas that you suddenly forget it is infact Christmas and it feels distinctly unChristmassy….
Went to Sainsburys first thing this morning as although we were very organised in getting all the Christmas food last week we mananged to fill the house with food without having any actual dinners for this week. Last night was a raid the freezer for sausages night so today I whizzed round and got dinners and the last few bits we need for the big day. It was brave and possibly a bit mad to attempt this jaunt with both children but they were positively angelic and sat in the trolley all the way round being little cherubs. They watched the scrum that is the fruit and veg aisle three days before Christmas with old folk scrambling to get sprouts like there is a national shortage with wide eyes, smiled at all the old people who wanted to pinch their cheeks and tell them how cute they were and ask them if they are looking forward to seeing Santa and asked for apples and bananas when I promised them treats for being good (which is probably cos they are actually sick of crips, biscuits and sweets but never mind!).
Dropped Jenny’s Christmas card in, dropped the shopping back at home and then went over to Dad’s. I had planned to get him to show me where an old couple Ady used to do gardening work for had moved to so we could take them a Christmas card but ended up staying there for lunch and most of the afternoon instead. Frazer was there and he played with the kids for ages while me and Dad sat and chatted, which was really nice.
Dad has this habit of really teasing the children, he used to do it with me and Frazer and has done it with every child he has ever met. Scarlett is getting better at taking it from him, but it does tend to upset Davies. I am torn between feeling sorry for him and thinking that it is no bad thing that he gets a bit of flack from someone. Ady does not do that classic Dad thing of teasing the kids really, he is more the good cop to my bad one. The thing is I would rather they got teased *nicely* by someone who loves them and they get used to it than dwelling on some hardcore nasty teasing by for example other kids in the playground…hmm not an easy one this really.
Home again and although they are both asleep neither of them are sleeping very soundly, I predict a bad night!
Tomorrow Julie and the twins are coming over and then Dad is looking after the children while I go with Ady for his scan – so fingers crossed it is all okay, and that they are able to confirm that to us tomorrow without waiting for a verdict too.
Weather permitting we are planning a walk round to deliver our very last Christmas card and look at all the various houses decorations tomorrow afternoon once it gets dark. The children will really enjoy that. Then on Friday Ady is planning to stay home with us, as there really is nothing for him to do at work, so we are going out for breakfast with my parents first thing and then have no concrete plans for the rest of the day other than keeping a balance between the children looking forward to Christmas Day but not exploding 🙂
I’m also working on some New Years Non resolutions at the moment which I will probably post in the next couple of days. More a couple of self improvement things for me than anything else but at least one of them is something I could do with some recommendations on.
I’ve been thinking about resolutions as well…be interested to hear what yours are. Will be thinking of you and Ady in the morning.
Comment by jax — 22 December 2004 @ 10:52 pm
My Dad teases the children too, and M in particular, really hates it, and he just can’t see that it’s really damaging his retationship with her at the moment.
Hope scan goes well, let us know, won’t you? (as if you wouldn’t ;))
Comment by Jan — 22 December 2004 @ 11:16 pm
Yes, sending you lots of good thoughts (in a general, holisitc sense, not actually DIRECTED at anywhere, IYSWIM ;-))
Comment by Joyce — 22 December 2004 @ 11:40 pm
I’m praying for you and ady too Nic. Hope you are feeling better wrt your cold/flu too. xxx ((()))
Comment by Karen b — 22 December 2004 @ 11:54 pm
My dad teased me, and he teases Poppy – I hate it really. I was never really teased at school, but it alwsy seems to me to be a horrible thing to do to someone you’re supposed to *care* about – especially when it goes past funny and you can see that the person you’re teasing is quite obviously getting upset or angry/
Comment by Alison — 23 December 2004 @ 12:35 am
Guess it’s just a ‘Dad’ thing then eh? I admit to although not encouraging it perhaps joining in to try and make it less harsh (eg the sort of thing he does is say to Tarly ‘Can I bite your toes’, she squeals as she is not altogether sure if he is kidding or not so I grab her and tickle her and say ‘quick Grandad’s going to bite your toes!’ while running off with her to escape him…)Maybe I should stop it. I recall my mum asking him to not tease us when we were little so there is little point in me asking him not to do it now. I think S will be fine actually, as soon as she susses out he is just teasing, but Davies is a bit more sensitive and likley to dwell on Dad’s teased threats…
Comment by Nic — 23 December 2004 @ 9:03 am
Oh and thanks for all the thoughts re Ady’s bits – and lol @ Joyce! Will of course blog later about what happens and I defy all of you to manage to meet Ady at Melrose and look him in the eye first 🙂
Comment by Nic — 23 December 2004 @ 9:04 am