To all you lovely people 🙂 xxx
Been pondering what V Day means to people at different stages of their life actually. As a child it was always a source of secret wishing and hoping that I would get a card from someone (I never did although I never actually sent one to anyone either!). As a 12-16 yo in an all girls school with no male friends it was simply a quiet day I’d rather wasn’t happening and when I was 17 and had my first boyfriend it was a good one cos I not only got flowers and a card and a meal from him I also got my one and only mystery valentines card. I later discovered that a friend at college had caught a lad from our Economics class sneaking a look through the registers to get my address and when he gave me a ‘joke’ pressie that day of some heart shaped chocolates sure enough the writing was the same. His message inside was ‘I hope you don’t mind too much’ which sort of tainted a bit really as actually I didn’t mind at all and was fairly torn about the fact I already had a boyfriend but was more excited about this card from him. I never saw him after I dropped out of Economics but he did appear on Friendsreunited and was not only doing rather well for himself (well according to his own entry on there anyway which is probably not that reliable actually. I mean who logs on to write stuff about themselves like ‘doing really crap actually, still live at home with parents although I am now 45, still doing that paper-round and lusting over Nic from Economics I once sent that card to – will she ever notice me???’) but also lived near us at the time in Manchester. I did not contact him but did spend the next few weeks giving everyone on the tram second glances incase it was him and also worrying that he was still after me and had only moved to Manchester after reading on my entry that I was living there too!
That was it then until I ‘got with’ Ady and although we always exchange cards, he usually buys me some sort of gift and we make an effort to have a nice meal in the evening as we do romantic stuff at other points during the year (wedding anniversary, first S anniversary etc) we don’t tend to get too worked up over V day. Infact I would actually be fairly horrfied and worried if I got an anonymous card now. Not only would I worry that people in their 30s should not be attractive to anyone other than the person they are wed to 😉 I would worry about what Ady would think, whether it was a joke, a stalker (particularly if it had a Manchester postmark and asked hope you still don’t mind too much) or someone who seriously thought that on the basis of sending me an anonymous card I would be inclined to do anything but worry about who they were.
Anyway, one day I really must either do some home education or at the very least pretend I do and blog about it. More washing mountain reduction work to be done followed by a trip to the library, doctors this afternoon and the friends who were coming decided our possible infection was sufficient to cancel so I might even have to put some effort into entertaining the small people!
Oh just remembered I do have some educational news! Got back to 100EL last night and Davies not only remembered all the sounds he had learnt with his weeks break in the middle he also read several words quite happily 🙂 Hurrah!
Well done Davies. Was nice to get to know him a bit better last week.
Valentines day, you’ve just prompted me to go give Tim his pressie, which I think may have originated in your book boxes anyway things my girlfriend and I have argued about
It raised a giggle, anyway 😉
Comment by jax — 14 February 2005 @ 10:02 am
yep that was one of mine 😉
Comment by Nic — 14 February 2005 @ 10:13 am
God, I’ve missed you!!! Give me a ring when you’ve got a mo. GLad you had a lovely time, am SO envious. TTYS,
Jenny
Comment by Jenny — 14 February 2005 @ 10:47 am
You should see my friendsreunited entry Nic 😉
Comment by Chris — 14 February 2005 @ 11:26 am
Well, V day today has involved unsuccessfully searching the house trying to find the present that Tilda bought to give to Poppy – will have to go back to the hunt soon …. I knew C would use illness as an excuse not to do anything, so I haven’t either 🙂
Did get one truly anonymous card once, when I was at college – turned up in my pigeon hole. It had a ‘meet me at so and so’ message in it, so I went along. I was going out with someone else at the time, but I figured that if he was nice I could always rethink the situation … lol … well, mostly I thought it would be nicer to actually tell him I had a boyfriend than ignore him. He was some postgrad mathmo who’d seen me at the Maths Institute, and he was pretty much just what you’d expect from that description, plus he was very short. So not much of a dilemma there then!
I used to always plan the cards I would send, but never did send any. Oh, after I’d finished college I sent cards to all of my boyfriend’s housemates, but they all recognised the postcards and lewd poems as being from me 🙂
Comment by Alison — 14 February 2005 @ 11:41 am
In the first year of college a couple of friends & I sent handmade cards to every man in the year (about 60, spread out in halls all over London) with personalised lewd limericks – was a nightmare. I haven’t cared much about Valentine’s day since then.
Comment by layla — 14 February 2005 @ 11:45 am
Chris, I got as far as putting your name into FR and then realised there were 15 pages of people with your name so gave up! You’ll have to blog it instead 🙂
Jenny – missed you too and thought several times of how much Carys would have enjoyed running round with the other fluffy pink princesses at Melrose last week 🙂 Will ring you tomorrow.
Perhaps we should have had an evening activity last week of making handmade cards for all the DHs although they may have ended up wine stained and full of swearing 😉
Comment by Nic — 14 February 2005 @ 2:00 pm
Nic, do you have transport issues. If it’s not nutters in fiestas, it’s stalker in trams.
Comment by Joyce — 14 February 2005 @ 3:09 pm
You may have a point there Joyce – don’t even get me started on trains!
Comment by Nic — 14 February 2005 @ 3:46 pm